“Friendship doubles your joy and divides your grief.” ~Swedish Proverb
One of my most cherished blessings is the gift of fabulous friendships. I am very fortunate to have quite a few people I am happy to say are friends in my life for many, many years.
I share this with you because so many things in life are short-lived and temporary. Few things are constant. To have a lifelong friend is truly a precious gift. I am honored to have such wonderful people in my life.
I offer you this poem from BJ Gallagher as written in her book, Friends: The Family We Choose for Ourselves which is a reminder good friends celebrate and applaud us in good times, embrace us, listen to us, and cry with us during tough times:
Life Which is Shareable is Bearable
I’ve learned that if I share my troubles, I can bear them
It makes me feel better to have you around when I’m down.
Your presence reassures me;
Your listening soothes me;
Your hug consoles me;
It’s nice to have company – even if it’s in the pits.
I don’t need cheery platitudes of positive thinking or
booming bravado urging me to “buck up”.
What I really need right now is just the comfort
of your company….
And maybe a little chocolate.
Friendship is one of those essential values fundamental for life to have true meaning. There is an occasion, a story, an event, a moment that I’m sure you can recall when a friend was there to make all the difference. Not only the good times but also heartbreaking, devastating and grief stricken times as well.
So dear one, hold close your friends. Reach out as much as you can and give yourself permission to lean on them and allow the comfort of their love, embrace, wisdom, patience, laughter and companionship protect you and lift you up.
Whatever you may need in the moment, trust yourself and trust a friend to surround you with light and hold you up when you can’t seem to stand on your own. You will help yourself and the wonderful feelings of that moment will be felt long afterwards. As your friendship evolves and you draw closer to each other, you become more beautiful human beings than you were before for having met each other.
To the beautiful friendships in your life today and always.