“Sometimes you just have to make peace with your past in order to keep your future from becoming a constant battle.”
― Susan Gale
Do you find it hard to let go? Letting go seems like it should be the easiest thing in the world to do. Yet for many of us, it can stop us in our tracks.
Letting go means different things. When you have a full schedule, letting go feels easy to take something away and free up time. What happens when you get hurt? Does letting go mean the other person gets a free pass? Forgive and forget? That’s when letting go becomes more difficult.
Letting go goes hand and hand with forgiveness, another subject all together. What I keep learning about forgiveness is that it has nothing to do with the other person getting away with something. It means not allowing what the other person did to cloud your world and keep you from moving on. Forgiveness allows the other person to no longer hurt you. It doesn’t mean you condone what happened or are suddenly okay with the hurt. You don’t have to have anything to do with someone to forgive them. Not easy to do but can really make things better.
Letting go is worth considering. We are not mean to stay the same. We are meant to change and grow. And when negative things happen and cause angst, sadness, loneliness and fear, these are the times letting go can be more difficult but necessary.
Letting go breaks the cycle of negativity. The beauty of this is with each negative change, we get to create a bigger, brighter, more dynamic version of ourselves. We are not meant to be unhappy, struggling, filled with pain or lack. We are meant to thrive. Thriving is easy and welcoming when we learn to let go.
T.D. Jakes wrote a beautiful saying on the subject I would like to share with you. It puts the subject of letting go in a new perspective.
Letting Go
By T.D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you..
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person. It just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better
LET IT GO!!!
If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you
to a new level in Him
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves
LET IT GO!!!
If you’re feeling depressed and stressed
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and
God is saying ‘take your hands off of it,’ then you need to
LET IT GO!!!
‘The Battle is the Lord’s!’
Life is too short to be held back in hurt and pain. To you and letting go of anything and everything bogging you down.
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Hope you are doing well. Boy, how quickly summer is passing. Before I know it, I will be asking my family about Thanksgiving and Christmas!
It’s always great to hear from you, Ray! Thank you for your kind words and I’m glad you enjoy the newsletter, especially sharing it with others. It really means a lot to me. Yes, the summer and this year is moving very quickly! The holidays will be here before we know it. Stay well and keep in touch.