“May every word that is spoken by our mouths or typed by our fingers be words that lift up and never tear down” ~ Brave Girls Club
Your words are powerful. Especially the words we say to ourselves. Do you ever think about or listen to the voice in your head? Have you listened to the words you say over and over? If the words you speak to yourself are critical and judging, I would tend to think you don’t always feel good about yourself.
At times, like many of you, I have been my own worst enemy. There is a voice inside that I call the Task Master. The Task Master can be harsh. I can end up feeling lousy about myself when I don’t live up to the challenges of this demanding voice.
It’s taken time but I have learned how to work with the Task Master. I shut it down when I feel attacked or my self-esteem begins to wane. On the other hand, the Task Master has become a friend. When there is a project looming or something important I want to get done, I’ve learned to be grateful for the Task Master. Under those circumstances I invoke the Task Master to give me motivation to get the job done and cross it off my list. During these times, I feel good when the job is finished and I see one less project on a to-do list that seems longer than I want it to be.
I am very serious when I say the words you speak can change your world. I truly believe this. Flogging and speaking in a harsh and critical tone has served no purpose other than to make me feel less than I want to be. Hence, my Task Master voice is a positive influence more so than negative.
Why is it we can speak to others much nicer, with more dignity and respect and yet, we manage to be very harsh, critical and unloving to the person we see every day in the mirror!
Friend or foe, words can change one’s world for the better or they can cut like a knife. Once spoken, they can never be taken back. Yes, we can do better each time going forward, but words spoken unkindly and mean-spirited to another cannot be erased so easily with one apology. It will take many, many attempts to redeem one’s self in the eyes of someone who has received harsh words spoken. If words can tear down someone’s spirits, the opposite is also true. Words can change one’s life for the better.
Words, words, words. Why not choose the best words possible to lift one’s spirits, inspire, show your love, kindness and friendship; shower the words of motivation and determination; Share words of laughter, support and compassion; There is an endless supply of words to use for good, always.
There will be days when negative words are looming, anger boils and you know you may be right and maybe you were in the cross-fire of someone lashing out at you. On those days, walk away, grab a journal, get quiet. On those days, breathe and stay calm. You may be surprised how quickly a nasty verbal exchange can be diffused when one person takes the time to think before reacting to someone else’s venom in the moment. Words are powerful and they can change relationships for the good or they can tear a relationship apart. Which is more important to you?