“Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.” ~ Asha Tyson
I know you’ve heard this before. Timing is everything and we are exactly where we need to be. When life has pulled the rug out from under you these two statements seem hard to digest, let alone believe to be true.
How often do we feel life is moving too quickly or even too slowly? We seem dissatisfied with where we are and our trepidation is real. We doubt ourselves, question choices and decisions, beat ourselves up for taking one road and not the other. Many times feeling regretful and unhappy instead of accepting things just as they are.
Do we make things more complicated than we should? How does one person experience tragedy, illness or pain that seems unbearable and is left to accept life is happening as it should?
The only answer that makes sense to me is each and every one of us has our own journey to follow. A journey unique to me as my handprint and just as unique to you as your handprint.
Does that mean some people are blessed more than others? That would seem a judgmental way of looking at things. When we judge what others have what follows is comparison. You compare your life to mine, I compare my life to someone else. The cycle is vicious and the end result is pain. Judging and comparing ourselves to anyone leads to negativity and truly serves no one.
There will always be someone who is smarter, prettier, more good looking, more savvy, more successful than we are. There are qualities that belong to us that someone else doesn’t have. In those instances, we are the one that is smarter, prettier, better looking, savvy, etc. than someone else is. It’s just the way life works. So there truly is no need to compare, judge, seek approval or look outside ourselves at all.
Sometimes our lives take a turn and we wonder how to handle everything. The challenges seem too insurmountable. We wonder if we will break and fail to overcome what we’ve been dealt. The sadness feels overwhelming. Fear rises and we can’t imagine getting to the other side with happiness waiting for us when we get there.
As real as pain is, doesn’t it also happen we get through the challenging times? We come out the other side and oftentimes far stronger and more resilient, equipped to handle those very same challenges we thought were too much to handle in the first place. So we thought.
Hasn’t there been many instances where you’ve looked back and realized if that experience, that person, that job, that road you didn’t take or the road you did take when you did might never have happened if you didn’t make the change or took the leap of faith? Isn’t that real for us?
When what you are facing is good than fear doesn’t get in the way and decisions come easily. When what you are facing is not so good, it’s harder to hear and process.
There is always a silver lining underneath every challenge. Look within to accept life just the way it is right now.
Yes, a challenge
Yes, in many instances uncomfortable
Yes, not ready to hear changes need to be made
Yes, not ready to embrace or accept what we have to do
Yes, angry we may have to do something different than what feels comfortable
Yes, overwhelmed and devastated we can’t see straight to consider what options are available just yet
Yes, realizing there is an alternative and another way of looking at things
Yes, letting go and allowing help to come and surround us with a warm embrace
Yes, showing up to give something new a try. Give ourselves permission to meet people where they are as much as where we might be and allow help to arrive.
When all is said and done, realize all we have is right now. Our timing is perfect in whatever situation we might be in. More importantly, we are surrounded in love by those who love us no matter what with their unconditional love and support of everything we do.
To the perfect timing in your life and the next steps to come.